Sister 50th Formal party

by Sowonee
(New York)

I am planning a 50th birthday and had a few questions

1.save the date-is it okay to send electronically and indicate early on no children allowed

2. Instead of gifts can I ask people to make monetary donations? This will be used for the honoree mission projects . She does not have a foundation.

3. I am looking at gold and winter white because the party is in winter

4. Any suggestions as this party is a week before Christmas


Thank you


50th Birthday Expert Answer



Hi Sowonee,

Yes, it is ok to send a Save-the-date electronically. And it is ok to put something on it along the lines of "Sorry we cannot accommodate children since this is a formal event. Please arrange for a sitter."

On the subject of gifts, some might consider it offensive to ask for money, but depending on the people involved you might be able to do it if people begin asking for gift ideas.

If most of those involved know about the mission projects, you might consider a statement like "In lieu of gifts, consider supporting or sponsoring (honoree)'s next mission project."

Gold and winter white would be beautiful in December. I assume you've seen our page on a winter theme with the white cocktails?

Parties in December are risky because people have so much to do and sometimes travel plans, but hopefully by planning in advance with Save the Dates, and possibly RSVPs with the invitation, you will have a good turn out.

I would suggest trying to get commitments from people individually if you're comfortable doing so. There's nothing worse than planning an awesome event and having only a handful of people show up.

This actually happened to someone I know for their wedding which was the weekend before Christmas, 2013. By that date everyone was planning to do family visits and declined the wedding. Turnout was roughly 1/3 of what was hoped for.

Depending on how close it will be, you could consider planning to have it well ahead of the last minute holiday period.

Good luck! Have fun planning a beautiful event!



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